PRINTABLE: Parent Motivator Post Cards
June 27, 2016
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Parenting can be rough. I've found a few things have helped my journey, among them are: my Lily Jade bag (I can hide ALL the food, diapers and calligraphy supplies in those 27 pockets and still have room for more) and the encouragement of random strangers. Some of the most impactful moments as a mother have been when someone was there to lift, give comforting advice, share a laugh and saying that it's all going to be okay.
When I first became a mother, I found myself the center of a lot of scrutiny. It seemed to drown out any encouragement I got. As time went on, I listened to the encouragement more and more. It has helped those wounds heal. So I'd like to pay all of that kindness forward in a small way.
Last month when I flew to Charlotte with the kids, there was a child on the plane that had a terribly hard time with the flight. My heart just ached for his parents, who were likely stressed out by the situation. I heard snide comments about that child by the passengers near me. UGH! I understand that no one wants to hear a screaming kid on a plan, but good grief, I don't think anyone on that plane was more tortured than the child's parents. A little bit of understanding goes a long way, in my opinion.
Oh how I wish I had had a card with an encouraging word to pass along to that family. So I've made these so I'm not so unprepared the next time I see a parent who needs a laugh or a bit of encouragement. I thought I would make these available to you as well. You can print them double-sided as postcards for easy mailing or keep the backs blank for a flat notecard or a simple pass-along card.
I found a few funny quotes that I hope would brighten up someone's day. Print them out or simply download by right clicking on the images on this post and sharing to a friend's timeline. I think it's important that we buoy each other up in the parenting community. There's just so much negativity and judgement that we need to start offsetting that. I hope you enjoy these cards and send something out soon to someone you admire.
My Favorite Waterproof Calligraphy Inks
June 16, 2016Let's talk ink for a bit. It's been a while since I've done a watercolor or a calligraphy post, or any post for that matter. I've recently adopted the "slow blogging" method. I spend most of my time teaching these days. You know I teach calligraphy right? If you're new, it's a stellar class that includes personal coaching so you know you're getting the right instruction for your specific needs (and yes, I totally teach lefties).
Sometimes I find I want to do some kind of watercolor wash after doing an illustration or a name. But I can't, because the ink inevitably smears everywhere. I thought I'd test out to see how many of my inks are waterproof. Now, I didn't test all of my inks, I just tested the ones I have that are easily available and most common. I have some small-batch inks that are a little harder to source. I've also only tested black (or black-ish) inks. Pigmented inks are a whole different can of worms because of the unique properties from pigment to pigment. If you're hoping to use a pigmented ink with watercolor, I would recommend trial and error before working on a finished piece. Well, and really trial and error no matter what you're using before working on a finished piece.
Among my inks, I tested:
- Ziller Glossy Black
- Ziller Soot Black
- Speedball India Ink
- Sumi 60
- Calli India ink
- FW Acrylic
- Iron Gall Ink
- McCaffrey's Penman's Ink
- Pebeo Encre de Chine
- Walnut Crystals
- Higgins Eternal
- Sumi + Walnut Blend
- Ziller Glossy Black - Was a total joke. It bled everywhere. But it bloomed so beautifully.
- Speedball India Ink - Smeared a little bit when wet. I personally don't love this ink because it can be harder to manage than most. So I kind of ignored this one.
- Calli India ink - The bottle says this is waterproof, so I was happy they were right. Unfortunately I believe my brush wasn't totally clean when I tested it so you see the faint ring around the squiggle. The pigment didn't budge at all when I got it wet.
- Iron Gall Ink - Smeared, plus it's very light. Iron Gall ink darkens with time, so it would get more permanent, but I wouldn't mess with it for watercolor use.
- Pebeo Encre de Chine - WINNER! I was right, this one didn't budge a BIT. No halos. In fact, the ink repelled the water.
- Higgins Eternal - Like I tell all my calligraphy students, this is a great ink for practice, but isn't practical in most applications. Unsurprisingly, it didn't do well.
- Ziller Soot Black - This one surprised me. I got finer hairlines than any of the other waterproof pigments and it held so well under water.
- Sumi 60 - Yeah right. Someone once told me that sumi is waterproof when it dries. It's possible for other brands, but definitely not Zig (the most popular).
- FW Acrylic - This ink is a little tough to manage to put on the paper and it budged a little in the testing process. For that fact I didn't really give it much attention.
- McCaffrey's Penman's Ink - This moved a little bit under water, but not much. It's a very light ink that darkens over time (like iron gall), so I wouldn't use since there's just not enough contrast.
- Walnut Crystals - You have no idea what kind of marking I made, this bled so much and I didn't have to agitate the water above the pigment at all. DEFINITELY NOT WATERPROOF.
- Sumi + Walnut Blend - I love mixing 50/50 walnut ink and sumi together. They're both very much NOT waterproof, but together they were more waterpoof than they were apart. Interesting, right?
Talking About Depression
June 11, 2016I tend to keep things mostly superficial on the blog here, but it's my blog so I do what I want. I want to write a little bit about depression, postpartum depression specifically. It's not something that I thought would ever affect me, but it has.
For show notes and the podcast episode, click here.
Briana of The Life Beats Project (if you don't listen, please do! So many great episodes) asked me if I would talk about my experience with postpartum depression on her podcast. I gladly accepted. As I was prepping for the podcast, I realized that I've never really shared my experience in a public forum like this. I tend to keep it quiet for the most part; I'm not afraid to open up to expectant or new moms. I'm not one to push advice onto other parents (plenty of people did that to me as a first-time mom, I became resentful of it), but this is something I'm incredibly passionate about. If my advice helps a mother, I'm happy to pay for the social cost of bringing up something so "taboo". I feel like many approach talking about depression like a pre-teen says the word, "sex": in hushed, embarrassed tones. We need to change that. I GET DEPRESSED. I've had struggles with postpartum depression (and depression beyond the baby). I'M ON DRUGS FOR IT. There. I said it. It's out! I'm not afraid to admit I'm on anti-depressants. I've been on and off them since I was pregnant with Felix. And it's been an up and down thing. Some days, my mental health is the equivalent of a couch potato trying to run a marathon without training. I'm a hot mess. Some days I don't want to get out of bed; but the world keeps spinning, work keeps piling up and the babies still need attention. You'll hear more about it on the podcast. So I thought I would write some notes of my own as a companion to the podcast episode. If you or someone you love has or may have depression, I hope you give it a listen.Follow along my #calligraphyquoteoftheday series here
RESOURCES AND THOUGHTS: If you're in the Utah area, Intermountain Healthcare has a free seminar on understanding mental illness this June 15 at 6pm at Alta View Hospital. If you're a person of faith, you may be familiar with encouragement that "praying harder" or "having more faith" is the best way to cure depression. Eye roll, right? This talk given by LDS Apostle, Jeffrey R. Holland is perfection and addresses that issue beautifully. It goes beyond just "Mormonism". I encourage you to give it a read. Don't get overwhelmed by the thought of talking to a doctor. Just recently, I found that my depression was coming back. I started withdrawing on a weekly, sometimes daily basis. I went back to the last professional that I had seen (my nurse midwife from June's pregnancy) and talked to her. I felt safe because I had seen her before. She was caring and respectful. Now I'm back on track with my emotions and thoughts under control. If it's been so long since an appointment you still don't know who to schedule an appointment with, try a primary care physician first for your annual appointment. Jenny Springer's interview on The Life Beats Project is fabulous. She talks more about long-term depression and how she self-medicated for years before getting help. I love how she talks about "feeding the right wolf". Working your way out of depression isn't just talking to a specialist and taking a pill daily. You have to do the things you need to in order to FEED your happiness. It's a beautiful episode. Sometimes you may find it easier to confide in a friend rather than a close family member. It's totally okay. It's hard to share those feelings. Starting that conversation can be one of the hardest, most awkward things to do. You can do it. Find someone who you can be accountable to. I hope that this is helpful to someone. If you have questions, I'm happy to answer them in the comments. Let's take back the stigma that depression is something to be ashamed about.